Wishful Thinking:

As a woman planning your wedding you really think you have it all figured out. Colors, place, styles, people, what you would and would never do. Reality check…you don’t know anything! As a girl I always thought I would have a BIG wedding on the beach with my toes in the sand and a big tented backyard reception with 100 + people with a never ending supply of good times. And while all that still sounds wonderful (minus the 100+ people) it’s the exact opposite of what has come to be my reality.

As Colt and I started discussing ideas, themes, colors and places it was clear that he was going to be a very involved and vocal groom. There was no “whatever you want babe” but more like “really you like that”, “no what about this”, “well I really like that”. I think most brides would be scared and surprised at how very involved he is. He has a never ending flow of ideas which really is fun and a little stressful and took some getting used to. Our first decisions and direction was that we were going to have a sea foam green and tan wedding with starfish and invitations in a bottle. The colors were perfect, our invitations were adorable, the girls dresses were to die for and the guys were looking sharp. I also really loved the incorporation of the starfish to tie in the whole beach theme. It was perfect until… groomzilla showed up (hahahaha I am so kidding babe) but he did. Colt wasn’t sure that he loved “tan.” It wasn’t his color and he started looking at other ideas. I really didn’t love that but I wanted my man to feel good so I thought why not take him to the wedding store and have him try on the tan and really “sell” him on it! I had no doubt he was going to look amazing. We went by two wedding stores and out of respect I won’t mention the names of these stores but they were horrible and I feel really bad for brides that get married in Maui and can’t travel off island to get their stuff. Since there wasn’t any other wedding stores we drove home annoyed and bummed out.

Grey in, Tan out.

A few days later we decided to go up to Macy’s to look around and see if they had some suits Colt could possibly try on. We were finally over the previous bad experience and thought it was time to try again. Surprisingly enough they actually had really good options. I found a really nice Kenneth Cole tan suit and was so excited for him to try it on. What I wasn’t excited about was that they made the same suit in grey and that’s the one he was very excited to try on. Long story short we didn’t walk out with the tan suit. Grey was in and my sea foam tan wedding was drifting out to sea.

New colors.

Once I got use to the idea of the new colors I really started to love them. It was the best fit to fit our new location. The beach got replaced by the chapel and the grand quickly became our playground for the reception. The new colors grey and yellow fit the style and became the theme. The more I looked the more I loved. It was edgy but modern, warm but very summer time.

New Wedding.

Since the colors, location and styles changed it was only natural that the people would too. My original dream of a large wedding was quickly replaced with the longing desire of a very small one. I made a promise to myself on the day we got engaged that nothing would become bigger than us. Fun and love are the fundamentals of everything our relationship is built on and I am determined to keep it that way no matter how stressed we get, how much money we don’t have, how stupid other people act or anything else that is bound to come up! This is our wedding and at the end of the day it’s about us. so..Learn it. Live it. Love it.